marriage....

hmmmmmmm... do i really want to ever engage in that agreement that has so many people going crazy now a days? to be honest, its not that it scares me, its that the number of unsuccessful marriages that i know terribly out weighs the number of successful marriages i know. what is it that has people divorcing left and right or just being plain miserable with thier husband/wife? knowin me id blame it on the man. somethin the man isnt doing right lol. bc us women for a fact tend to change everything about ourselves to please our men, its the men who never want to change and we all know that marriage is about comprimizing. if you cant compromise then theres going to be problems. i dunno, its a crazy thing. every adult and by adult i mean at least 35 and over that has been married are either divorced and pretty much hate the person, or are still married and absolutely miserable. the only happy marriages i know are people who have gotten married within the last 5 to 6 yrs yo, and really that is supposed to be the happiest times so i can see why that is. but again, i constantly ask myself is that a road i ever want to go down? i feel like if i find a dude who is willing to compromise, he will be soft and i dont want no soft nigga. i been wit 2 soft niggas before and i cant stand that shit. i need a man to put me n my place from time to time and not cry if i say somtehing he dont like. then i hear the stories of husbands doin dirty shit to their women. or kern will tell me stories about men at his job who never want to go home jus to avoid their wife and kids. will my husband be like that?? thats sad. i know women tend to nag and b very demanding but its bc men dont take care of business sometimes and we are doin 90% of the work, its not fair. i feel like we wouldnt nag and demand shit if u jus did wtf u was supposed to do. obviously u cant go out the guys every nite of the week if we have kids nigga. so dont call me a bitch for wantin ur ass home sometimes or not wantin u to do somewhere. i need a fuckin life too. ugh it irks me when i hear and read the countless stories about a marriage that went bad bc of the dude. which is why marriage is honestly somthing im not lookn forward to. i mean i kno people always say well when u find the right one then ull be fine. but is there even a such thing?? bc based on all the men ive came across n my life, friends, partners, family members, exes and husbands of friends, THEY ARE ALL THE SAME. no matter what you say and there is no changing my mind in that topic. because ive analyzed them all and they all do and say the same shit. so if a nicca tell u he different, its for the time beinng. once that fool get comfortable, he will be the fool all the rest of them are. well let me stop talkn shit.. but true story tho, maybe my mind will change when i get older. its not that i dont want to get married, i do someday. but i just dont want it to be like the rest of the failed marriages that exist now a days with people who have been married 10-15 yrs or more. somethings gotta give..